Chapter 11: Discrimination and Empathy Gap
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- Jun 18, 2018
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Updated: Jan 8, 2020
Chapter 11: Discrimination and Empathy Gap
‘‘There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy... They're controlled by different parts of the brain.’’
- Daniel Goleman –
The next few chapters will be dedicated to Purple-Pill men; the men who took the Red-Pill and still want to date and form a family regardless of the present risks that are associated with such an endeavor. Dating and building long-term relationships with women is not a thing that I personally advocate, but some men will never be able to find a sense of purpose outside of their biological role, and so I will give you the best advice I have. These chapters will also be relevant for Men Going Their Own Way as I will be exploring and talking a lot about female nature.
First and foremost, it is necessary that I go over the dangers of associating with women in today’s Western society. Those dangers are interlinked with the empathy gap, but what exactly is it?
1. Let's start with a recent and example in Northern Ireland. In Northern Ireland, abortion is illegal. A woman who aborts her child will face trial and go to prison. To evade prosecution, thousands of women go to England to have their abortion and come back to Northern Ireland afterward. Clare Bailey is the deputy leader of the Green Party in Ireland. She is also a feminist. If her party is elected, Clare Bailey wants to pass a law that would makes men allegeable for prosecution when their partner gets an abortion, with DNA test as proof. Clare Bailey thinks that men should be responsible for women's choices. This is a quote from her political party: [‘‘Any males who impregnate a female knowing that any pregnancy that may result is unwanted or being reckless as to whether any such pregnancy may result, and the woman chooses to seek to end the pregnancy, shall be guilty of felony and being convicted thereof shall be liable to be imprisoned, or to be fined or both.’’]
How can a man be responsible for a woman's decision to have an abortion? Even if he tried to stop her, a woman could go and get an abortion whenever she wanted. A man has no means to stop her.
If we follow this standard we should also make men responsible for all crimes that women commit. If a spouse steals, sell drugs, or commits murder her husband should also be prosecuted, right?
Thankfully, this law has not been passed yet, and we can only hope that it will never pass, as it would be a violation of human's basic rights.
2. Another example of this type of insanity is the ‘‘manspreading law’’ in New York. Naturally, it is called manspreading because it only targets men. Simply put, it enables police officers to give a ticket or arrest seated men who spread their legs and take up too much space on a New York subway. The officers sometimes restrict, cuff, and confine men who ‘‘man spread’’ and sometimes arrest them on charges of disorderly conduct. They are always held overnight and the judge invariably dismisses the charges when they appear in court. It is a waste of time and money for everybody. Police officers also give tickets up to a fine of $50, and 1,430 cases of manspreading were compiled in 2015 alone. Manspreading is already in itself a biased law that discriminates against men, but the crazier thing is that it can sometime be taken to criminal court.
3. In certain states throughout the US, a man can be arrested for sitting on a public bench near a playground. A famous example of this is the black man named Chris Lollie who was tased and taken to jail for sitting on a bench in front of a park. The innocent man was waiting for his kid to leave school and he just got off work. A parent must have thought he ‘‘looked suspicious’’ and called 911. The police officer asked Chris for an ID, and the man refused to identify himself. In America, police can never compel you to identify yourself without cause and the man had done nothing wrong nor did he physically resist. Anyhow, he was tased regardless and brought in for ‘‘trespassing, disorderly conduct, and obstructing the legal process’’. Sitting near a playground is not officially illegal, but the police could arrest you anyway and just file it under a different charge. The man was indeed waiting for his kid to come back from school.
4. In most Western countries, there is a mandatory arrest policy for domestic violence.
[‘‘All states have empowered the police to make warrantless arrests in cases of domestic violence, and some state statutes have sought to reduce police discretion by mandating specific actions be taken when responding to such incidents.’’] (Mandatory Arrest Policy Implications and Domestic Violence, Stephanie Smith, Western Michigan University, 2014)
Each state’s legislation varies slightly from one another, but the Mandatory Arrest Policy is a global phenomenon in western countries.
For one example, as stated in the ‘‘Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence’’ New York has a ‘‘Mandatory Arrest’’ law regarding domestic violence. This means that the police must make an arrest when they have reasonable cause to believe that a person has committed specific crimes against members of their family or household.
If an arrest is made, the police will bring the abuser to the police station for booking, to prepare for arraignment. The arraignment should happen within 24 hours, at which time a judge will read the charges and other details about the incident to the alleged abuser, now called the “defendant.” During the arraignment, several things may happen: An attorney may be assigned to the defendant. An order of protection may be issued. The judge can decide to release the defendant, set bail or hold them in jail without bail.
It is quite the fast and efficient way to prosecute men.
According to ‘‘New Jersey state police crime statistics’’ men accounted for 42% of victims of serious physical injuries from domestic violence in 2008 and about 75% of persons arrested for domestic violence in the U.S. are men.
Some say that Mandatory Arrest laws gives the victims of domestic abuses a break from the violence and time to consult with advocates, but this statement is a blatantly ignoring the basic right of US citizen to be innocent until proven guilty (and not the other way around).
In a court of law, subjective definitions of violence can be used against an accused person. Speaking in an elevated voice that could be interpreted as aggressive and other non-violent acts can be valid accusations when they are handled in court.
Terms like “I feel threatened by him” are commonly used throughout this federal legislation, and many use this to their advantage for purpose of revenge and to deflect attention from the fact that in most case of domestic violence there is mutual violence. Others put themselves in a better position in divorce and child custody matters. In fact, 25.8% of domestic violence accusations are made when there is a child custody dispute involved. With regard to prosecution, domestic violence laws are usually decided on the legal concept of “preponderance of the evidence” rather than “innocent until proven guilty”.
This means that without any forensic evidence, or any evidence other than the accusations itself, a judge can still find a man guilty if he believes that violence “likely” occurred. The problem with this kind of thinking is that judges are not always objective, and since they already give 63% harsher sentences to men in criminal court, we can’t really trust them to be impartial in domestic violence cases. Consequently, many judges allow and enable false allegations or mutual violence scenarios to proceed to convictions for men only.
With statistics and procedures like the ones we just saw it is not a stretch to say that the U.S. criminal justice system operates with de facto gender profiling of men for arrest for domestic violence.
5. Child custody. You probably already know that when there is a dispute over child custody, the mother will win by default about 90% of the time. But depending on where you live, it can be even worse than that. Here are a few examples.
Michigan
When a child is born out of wedlock in Michigan, even if the father establishes paternity of the child, he is given no rights to custody or visitation of the child, but may still have to pay child support. He can only get visitation rights if the mother consents or by petitioning the court.
This puts unwanted fathers at an immediate disadvantage because it is presumed that the mother should care for the child and the father has to fight for his rights.
Wisconsin, Oklahoma, Texas, and Illinois
Section IX of the Wisconsin Family Code – Paternity. The entire section is entirely unfair to men beginning with the assumption that the mother is the primary caretaker, and it finish with the point that the father is statutorily responsible for reimbursing the state for birthing expenses if the mother was on state assistance when the child is born. The mother isn’t required to pay the state back, though.
6. Being forced to be a father. So long as you are male, once your sperm enters a woman's body, you lose all your rights, even if she inseminated herself with the leftover sperm from a used condom. At this point, you will either be forced to pay child support (depending on where you live you can even go to prison if you don't pay) or you can take up the responsibility of a father on the basis that your partner decides that she allows you to. If she decides to break-up with you and goes to court to gain custody, there is roughly a 10% chance that you will succeed.
On the other hand, a woman has complete control over her fertility with birth control pills and many other methods. She can get an abortion if she wants to and even give the child up for adoption if she wants to forfeit her responsibilities. Depending on where you live, when a child is born outside of marriage, the mother can give the child up for adoption without the father's consent, and it is very arduous to find the kid and regain your parental rights. Government agencies might refuse you the right to retake your child even if you did not have a say in the matter, and some fathers have to fight tooth and nail to get their child back in these situations.
7. Child support and alimony: 97% of alimony payers are men, and 93% of child support payers are men. This fraudulent scam is what allows a massive amount of single mothers to thrive while their ex-husbands are left poor and suicidal. 70 to 75% of divorces are initiated by women while other types of relationship breakups are initiated by both men and women equally. This can only happen because divorces are a significant source of income for women while a typical breakup is not. Even if you want children, don't be fooled into marrying.
Here are two stories about fathers who killed themselves after being ‘‘divorced raped’’ in family court. This is to give you a taste of what could await you if you decided to marry.
Jeramey A. was married and divorced twice, and both applications from his two ex-wives for child support and alimony were successful, bringing his total child and spousal debt to about $8,000 a month. He asked the court several times to lower the cost of his spousal payments, but his demands were never answered. After years of being separated from his children and of ongoing payments that he could barely afford, Jeramey was finally at the end of the rope.
Early on the morning of March 9, 2016, Jeramey rigged his truck so that when he drove down an embankment at the end of Page Road in Abbotsford, B.C., his neck would break.
The scrawled and bloody suicide note found inside the truck read: [“FAMILY LAW NEEDS REFORM. I recommend mandated lower costs and less reward for false claims of abuse. Parental Alienation is devastating. I loved my children as much as a husband and father could. I see no light. Recommend; an authority consistent during high conflict separations: It is exploited in family law.’’]
Jeramey A. also wrote a few words of apology to his dad and current girlfriend.
[“Sorry Dad and Angie. I’m very sorry.”]
The second story is just as painful to hear, if not more.
Thomas James Ball of New Hampshire was stuck in an ongoing 10-year court battle over his divorce, child support payments, and visitation rights with his children.
For years, Thomas filed one unsuccessful court motion after another, seeking access to his children.
He channeled his frustration at the legal system into action with father’s rights groups seeking to change the law and to give fathers more clout in custody and divorce proceedings. Thomas would picket courthouses while carrying a sign that read “Children need their fathers’’ and he ran seminars for divorced dads about court procedures.
When all his actions failed, he opened a red plastic gasoline can, tipped the container above his head, and drenched himself before igniting himself in a grim scene of self-immolation in front of the courthouse in downtown Keene. A police officer ran up with a fire extinguisher, but it was too late for Ball.
Thomas also left a long suicide note in which he quickly described the role of modern fathers.
[“Face it boys, we are no longer fathers, we are piggy banks.’’]
Divorced husbands do not simply kill themselves; they completely obliterate themselves. I can only speculate how much desperation one must feel to go through with such extreme measures. One thing is certain; the agony must have been excruciating.
8. False rape accusations: Rape is a serious offense, there is no arguing against that, and it is a crime punishable by imprisonment. Falsely accusing someone is also a serious matter, so why is it so lightly handled by the law? Once an accusation has been made, the defendant's identity is made public while the accuser's identity is kept secret. The accused man often loses his reputation and job and it may even destroy his relationship with his family and friends. Statistics vary in different countries, but the general rate of false rape allegations is confirmed to be between 2 to 10% (link to the study at the end of the chapter). Those numbers may seem small, but this is reality this is outrageous.
The #metoo movement is a hashtag used by women on social media platforms to share their stories of sexual violence. The #metoo movement became viral in November 2017, and 1.7 million accusations were made worldwide. If 2 to 10% of those accusations were false, it means that between 35,000 to 200,000 men had their life entirely ruined for no reason. A false charge, even when it’s done on social media, even if there is no proof, even if it is proven that the man is innocent, utterly destroy a man’s life; it is an irrecoverable loss.
Once an employer sees that a man has been accused of a sexual misconduct, you can be sure that this man will be quickly fired, as he automatically becomes a liability for the company's reputation. With numerous articles written about the accused man floating around on the Internet and social media platforms these days, a business owner who wants to keep the image of his corporation intact has no choice but to fire the employee who was unjustly accused. The exiled man may seek work elsewhere, but any employer that looks up his name will quickly find out about those allegations of sexual misconduct and naturally won’t hire him. Many men who are falsely accused of sexual violence become homeless and eventually commit suicide. There is no way to repair the damage done from a false rape accusation.
Between 2 to 10% of all rape accusations have enough evidence to be confirmed as false beyond a reasonable doubt, which is to say that in the eye of the criminal court, they are entirely untrue. I dare ask, how many more allegations of sexual harassment, sexual misconduct, and rape are false but lacked evidence to prove it?
It’s even more outrageous that almost all false accusers do not receive any punishment for their crime.
When interviewed, Jonathon Andrews, a former Hanover College student, described the impact of being falsely accused of sexual assault in late November 2015 as follow:
[‘‘It feels like your entire world is crashing down around you. It strips you of your future. I even attempted suicide.
You can’t look people in the eye, you're afraid to go out of your dorm room, you're afraid of running into your accuser somewhere and somehow being in the wrong for that, and you're afraid you’re going to lose your friends. The people that you trust most are taking the side of the person who accused you.
I had never faced something so difficult in my life. It was pretty traumatizing. I had faith in the system at the time, and I told myself, and others told me if I just went in and told the truth I would be fine.
That wasn't the case. I was expelled from college.
Once you are accused of rape, it’s on your record for the rest of your life. You’re likely not going to finish your degree, and not having a degree means not having a stable income or a good job.’’]
Jonathan was a semester away from graduating and had lost out on everything he had worked for.
This all happened in a system that has been manufactured to lean against him and it took away his faith in the system.
Please take note that after the investigation, Andrews was cleared of all charges, but was still expelled from college anyway. In other words, his right to due process was violated.
Some of you may be wondering why a woman would falsely accuse someone of rape, and while I cannot provide official studies on the matter, here are some of the more frequent reasons typically found behind false rape allegations.
1- Women lie about rape to cover up their infidelity (I did not cheat on you, he raped me).
2- Women lie about rape because they are mentally ill.
3- Women lie about rape to protect their reputation (I did not sleep with that loser, he raped me).
4- Women lie about rape if a man does not call back or if the sex was bad.
5- Women lie about rape to get sympathy and attention (victim complex).
6- Women lie about rape for revenge.
7- Women lie about rape to further their career (If I get him fired I will get his position).
A claim of sexual assault, rape, or harassment is a sure-fire, low-risk, high-reward weapon that some women these days will very quickly turn to in order to deal with a man who upsets them. How many men have ended up in court because a woman thought they were rude to them? How many men have done prison time because they didn’t call a girl the day after sex? If you sleep and interact with lots of women then have no illusions: you are at risk, and it can happen to you.
An accusation of rape itself, even if there is absolutely no proof behind it, is enough to make you lose your job and rupture your relationships with friends and family, as everyone will take the side of the ‘‘victim’’. That is why you see more and more women making up rape accusations on social media instead of going to the criminal court. Nowadays, false accusers don’t even bother to go to the police as that could reveal their deceitful agendas, especially when their story doesn’t hold water. The moral of the story is that any random woman could potentially accuse you of rape with no evidence, and when that happens you will be in for a hell of a trip. If you ever go to prison because of a rape allegation, be ready to be treated like the worst of the worst, as the other inmates don't treat rapists kindly.
There are so many examples of discrimination against men, but I don't want this chapter to be too long, so I will wrap it up with one last comment.
The discrimination against men is an obvious sign that we, as a society, don't care about men. This phenomenon is called the empathy gap, and it means that we have more empathy for one gender than we do for the other. If you are a man, you have no choice but to deal with this unpleasant reality.
False rape accusation in several Western countries:
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