Chapter 12: Basic Precautions and the Role of Provider

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Chapter 12: Basic Precautions and the Role of Provider

‘‘Love having become a god, becomes a demon.’’

- C. S. Lewis –

‘‘No other hobby takes away so much time, money, strength, and health as a woman.’’

– Someone somewhere –

We’ve already established in previous chapters that the legal system is biased against men and that women may manipulate men, and the court, to obtain more many benefits. To live a fulfilling life, the modern man must evade those deadly traps.

My first piece of advice is straightforward and simple. No matter what, don’t get married. You will dodge a lot of problems simply by avoiding marriage, and I'm not just talking about alimony payments and losing your children.

If you’re the romantic type and really want to marry, I can’t even suggest just doing a ceremony, since some judges find that this is enough to consider you married under the law. This is not a joke! The state shouldn't have to regulate our relationships, but since they do, what choice do we have?

Boycotting marriage is a step in the right direction, but it is far from enough to protect yourself.

When casually dating, make sure to always protect yourself even if your partner says she is taking birth control. It is possible that she is lying to get pregnant, but even if she tells the truth, there is always the possibility that your partner takes antibiotics that interfere with the effect of the pill. In fact, taking antibiotics and getting pregnant is more common than we believe. Other medication like certain antifungal medicine, several types of seizure drugs, and even some HIV medications can decrease the effectiveness of the birth control pill.

Making a mental list of all the medications that may interfere with the pill and monitoring your partner’s behavior isn’t feasible and you shouldn’t blindly trust someone when a matter as crucial as a potential pregnancy is concerned.

For those who don’t know, being forgetful with the birth control pill and missing a day or two can rarely result in pregnancy. The chances of pregnancy when not taking the pill for three days in a row is below 0.01%. In some cases, women who stop the birth control pill will stay infertile for a few months, and in some cases, for up to nine months.

A massive poll that questioned 5,000 women, average age 38, across Scotland, England, Wales, and Northern Ireland, was done in 2014 and found out that women routinely lie to their romantic partner. Please take note that there can be a margin of error as well as bias in these types of polls, but when a survey is done with 5000 people, it is quite telling.

The poll on attitudes to truth and relationships has found that 19 out of 20 women admit lying to their partners or husbands.

Next, 83% percent of women in the survey owned up to telling “big, life-changing lies,” with 13% saying they did so frequently.

Fifty percent said that if they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with their partner, they would lie about the baby’s real father.

Forty-two percent would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, no matter the wishes of their partner.

And an alarming 31% said they would not tell a future partner if they had a sexually transmitted disease: this number rises to 65% for single women.

Most of the questions in this survey were about ‘‘what would you do’’ and ‘‘if’’, which means that these women didn’t necessarily betray their spouse, husband, or boyfriend, but while they may not have done it, they certainly are ready to do it.

Can you see why men have so many trust issues these days? It really is no wonder.

If a woman becomes pregnant when ‘‘she’s on the pill’’, she either purposefully stopped taking her birth control months ago, or she took medication that interfered with the effect of the pill. Most women don’t even know that some medication can temporarily remove the effect of the birth control pill, so don’t blindly trust them.

Once she gets pregnant, your fate and that of the child will be in her hands. She could terminate her pregnancy and let you off the hook, or she could keep the child and milk you for money as a cash cow for the next eighteen years. She could also leave for another city, safely deliver her kid and never tell you that you have a child. Heck, she could even give up your baby for adoption without your consent. So many choices, but none are yours to make. The decision is at her complete discretion, and you should never blindly trust someone over such important matters.

After sex, always destroy the condom. I used to flush the condom down the toilet before becoming completely celibate.

Why flush it down the toilet? Some cases of women inseminating themselves with leftover sperm in a used condom have been reported here and there in the US, and here is a story from reddit about a woman who stole her boyfriend's sperm from a used condom:

[‘‘Anyone who meets me, or reads what I write, would think I don’t like children and never wanted to be a mother. Indeed, for most of my adult life, having a child was the furthest thing from my mind.

I wanted a career, freedom, a nice house, and to keep my figure. As a feminist, I looked down on the mumsy types.

But when I was in my late 30s, I decided that if I didn’t get pregnant soon then it might never happen. I had also reached a point in my life where I wanted to settle down with a man, and though my boyfriend at that time was wildly unsuitable, I thought that I could change him.

He was still very cautious, though. He refused to believe I was on the pill and insisted we use a condom for every moment of our intimate contact.

‘‘I don’t trust you,’’ he said, muttering something about women claiming to want a career, but underneath wanting to start a family.

I called his bluff and told him there was no way I would want a baby with him, given he didn’t earn any money. Yet the truth was, I had hatched a plan that many will doubtless find shocking.

Because he wouldn’t give me what I wanted, I decided to steal it from him. I resolved to steal his sperm from him in the middle of the night. I thought it was my right, given that he was living with me and I had bought him many, many M&S ready meals.

The ‘theft’ itself was alarmingly easy to carry out. One night, after sex, I took the used condom and, in the privacy of the bathroom, I did what I had to do. Bingo.

I don’t understand why more men aren’t wise to this risk — maybe sex addles their brain. So let me offer a warning to men wishing to avoid any chance of unwanted fatherhood: if a woman disappears to the loo immediately after sex, I suggest you find out exactly what she is up to.’’]

You never know when you will fall on a woman whose biological clock is ticking. She may very well be desperate for a child even if she tells you otherwise. Always use the condom and destroy it afterward. If you prefer to sleep with multiple women, then this should be your golden rule.

Here is another story that should act as a red flag:

[‘‘Hello. I currently reside in California with my long-term girlfriend. We've been together for five years and have discussed many times that we both do not want children.

She's been on birth control for the past four years, and we never had an issue.

Just last week, she told me she was pregnant, claiming to be the 0.01% miracle that happened even with the birth control. I was skeptical, but I guessed that these cases do happen at times. We discussed an abortion, but she was completely against it. She explained that she would feel too guilty and wants to go through with the pregnancy.

This rang a few bells in my head.

How can someone that was so against having children - all of a sudden get knocked up and then calmly proceed to keep the baby without much discussion? It just wasn't adding up.

Yesterday, while she was in the shower, I snooped around her laptop and found a chat log via a Facebook group chat with her two best friends.

In the log… not only did her friends convince her to have a baby because she might regret it later, but also managed to plot to get off the birth control pill without my knowledge.

I had never felt such betrayal. In an instant, I started questioning how much I really knew her.

The chat log was so shocking; I couldn't help feel more hurt than angry.

They were all just cheerfully plotting this without my knowledge while laughing their asses off saying stuff like:

‘‘Yeah, he doesn't need to know LOL’’

‘‘Just do it now, and apologize later. It's no big deal.’’

Not only do I not want this kid, but I don't even want to spend another minute with her in a room.

I can no longer be in this relationship, after such a backstab. I realize now is the time to be calm and collected, but I really have no idea what else to do. Do I have any options? I've read stories about this throughout the internet, and it's terrifying me.

It takes two persons to conceive a child. Therefore, I don't get a say? Even if I was manipulated into it? With evidence that I was? I know it sounds morally fucked up, but I feel trapped, betrayed, and set up.’’]

Did it send shivers down your spine? It sure did when I read that story. I honestly feel sorry for the guy, but at the same time, one must really be gullible to trust a woman with the birth control pill these days. I mean, I saw a TV show (AskWendy from Fox5 – Foxny.com) the other day where a woman was interviewing people in a big audience made entirely of women, and a random woman told her story for everyone to hear. According to this random girl, she and her boyfriend had a child, but she hoped to have one more. However, the boyfriend didn’t want a second child.

The lady asked if it was okay to trick her boyfriend into a pregnancy by stopping the birth control pill. The lady in charge of the interview turned around and asked the crowd if they thought it was okay. ‘‘If you agree that she should trick her boyfriend, please clap,’’ she said. Do you know what happened? The woman who wanted to trick her boyfriend had immediate and indisputable support from the entire audience. They all eagerly and unanimously clapped without even a tiny bit of hesitation!

After granting you sex for a certain amount of time, every woman will feel as if you owe her what she wants. She is entitled to it, what you think is irrelevant, and her internal monologue will make her believe that she is morally justified while she betrays you and lies to your face.

Sometimes a woman will claim that she has a particular condition (Premature Ovarian Failure is one of such examples) where she cannot have a baby. If you trust her, do not be surprised if it ends up that she ‘‘miraculously’’ became pregnant, as such cases happen from time to time. Even if her blood tests can positively ascertain that she is infertile, it may change over time simply because of her eating habits (nutrients, vitamins, and minerals intake). Don't forget that she could also be lying from the start, as her ‘‘condition’’ may be an outright lie to get you to impregnate her.

As a man who values his freedom, you should also be wary of dating fellow student in colleges and universities. University student are under the ongoing affirmative consent rule. It means that if there is no verbal affirmative response before and during sex the male student can be found guilty of rape. The matter won't go to the criminal court, but it is enough for your college to expel you. This will ruin your education, and they will use ‘‘preponderance of evidence’’, which is employed in the civil court, instead of ‘‘proof beyond a reasonable doubt’’, which is used in criminal court to judge you.

Unless rape and sexual assault become civil matters and are no longer criminal acts, then colleges should use the same system that the criminal court uses. ‘‘Proof beyond a reasonable doubt’’ means that the standard that must be met by the prosecution's evidence in a criminal prosecution is that no other logical explanation can be derived from the facts except that the defendant committed the crime.

‘‘A preponderance of the evidence’’ just means that one party needs more evidence in its favor than the other to win the case, even by the smallest degree. Since false rape accusations are becoming more common on college campuses, you should take this matter very seriously.

I highly recommend that you don't date fellow student while in college and directly go after girls outside of school. You will dodge a lot of trouble by doing this.

As stupid as it may be, only a man can be so harshly punished for having consensual sex. Women hold all the cards, and it is necessary to protect yourself.

When having sex, accidents may happen even if you are being careful. There is also the risk of a condom breaking. It happened to me multiple times in my days as a PUA (pick-up artist). If it happens to you, go to the clinic with the lady to get the morning-after pill. I suggest that you go the same day it happens, but if you can't, you should definitely go the following day.

I insist on the importance of accompanying your partner because that is the only way you can be sure she goes there. Most women will pay for the day-after pill themselves, but you should not hesitate to pay for it. Going with her to the clinic and paying your part will clearly show your intentions that without a doubt, you don't want children. Insisting on going with her and paying your part will only make your point clearer. Afterward, watch her swallow the pill. That is exactly what I did when it happened to me. Be completely shameless when going through those steps, and do not let her guilt you with stuff like ‘‘What? You don't trust me!’’

The morning-after pill is an emergency plan, and hopefully you won't have to use it, but you should be ready for it just in case.

Some men advocate for vasectomies. I would suggest carefully weighing your options when thinking about it since some studies found a link between vasectomies and an increased rate of prostate cancer. Other studies found that there is no such correlation, and it is a controversial subject. Recent studies really points to the evidence that vasectomies does not increase prostate cancer risks. However, it is a good idea to keep in mind that one can rarely alter the bodies’ function without any side effects.

In the end, having a vasectomy or not boils down to a risks and benefits analysis and this decision is personal.

Safely using the condom and boycotting marriage will assure you the fundamental human rights that you should have. Well, in most cases anyway.

By wearing adequate protection, you keep the choice of becoming a father at your discretion. In other words, you are able to choose when you become a father, and with whom you have a child with. More importantly, you can decide whether you want to be a father at all.

By boycotting marriage, you have better chances of protecting the assets and earnings that you achieve with your own blood and sweat.

Unfortunately, some men have their choices stolen from them.

These things are the basics of the basics, but they won't shield you against the damaging role of the provider. For this purpose, more steps are necessary.

Spontaneous pregnancy in women with premature ovarian failure:https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/156562188

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