Chapter 17: A Better Partner, the High Testosterone Woman (part 2)
- Manhood Shitty Shit
- Jun 20, 2018
- 9 min read
Updated: Jan 8, 2020
Chapter 17: A Better Partner, the High Testosterone Woman (Part 2)
‘‘Low testosterone in women is usually presents with one or more of the following: decreased sex drive or decreased libido (including lack of interest in sex or difficulty in getting aroused). Inability to build muscle mass, inability to maintain muscle mass, or "sagging", especially in the upper arms. Depressed mood or increased irritability. Inability to lose weight or increased weight gain (especially without a change to your diet). Decreased energy levels or fatigue. Hair loss or thinning of the hair.’’
-Dr. Westin Childs –
Low levels of testosterone in men and women have similar consequences. Fat gain, muscle and bones atrophy, increased risk of osteoporosis, low sex drive, low motivation, depression, difficulty concentrating for extended periods of time, and increased risk of heart disease are only a portion of the potential side effects. In the previous chapter, I explained how to visually spot a woman with a healthy amount of testosterone. For part two of this topic, I will focus on lifestyle choices and nutrition tips that will help you differentiate a high-T woman from the rest of the crowd.
Some factors kill testosterone like the hormonal Grim Reaper, but they’re easy to spot once you know your partner a little better. With the following points, you will see why there is an epidemic of low testosterone in our nations.
1- She is vegetarian/vegan: It is possible to have a healthy amount of testosterone for vegetarians and vegans, but it is a significant challenge. The proteins found in beans, sprouts, legumes, and veggies are often incomplete, poorly absorbed by the body, and not present in sufficient quantities to meet our daily needs. It is not to say that legumes are bad, on the contrary they are quite healthy. However, they shouldn’t be used to meet your daily intake of proteins and vegan who poorly plan their diet are at risk of not meeting their daily requirement of proteins.
Vegetarians/vegans are likely to be deficient in omega-3 fatty acids found in fish and other seafood, and they can lack healthy saturated fat found in animal meat. A healthy ratio between omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids is essential for good health and vegetarian often fall short in this category. Also, low saturated fat consumption will decrease the amount of their HDL cholesterol (good cholesterol), which is one of the first building blocks for testosterone. Just to specify, HDL cholesterol is not linked to heart disease in any way. If you want to avoid the real culprit for ‘‘bad’’ cholesterol (LDL cholesterol) and heart disease, just make sure to keep trans fats and sugars away from your plate. So, unless vegans/vegetarians supplement with dietary proteins, balance their omega-3 to omega-6 intakes, and make sure to find a good amount of saturated fat from other sources, they will have a lower amount of testosterone.
2- She avoids all sources of saturated fat: The limited intake of saturated fat is linked to small amounts of HDL cholesterol, which leads to low testosterone.
3- She is a sugar fly: Did you know that drinking two small cans of Coca-Cola will reduce a man’s testosterone by 25% for two hours? Researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston have found that glucose ingestion was associated with a significant decrease in the male hormone testosterone.
The study, published in the journal Clinical Endocrinology, shows that 75g of sugar intake causes a 25% drop in testosterone levels for up to two hours after consumption.
The same principle is also relevant to women. Sugary drinks, cookies, chocolate, refined carbs, candy, you name it! If your girl is drawn to sweet food like a moth is attracted to flames, then you can bet that she is low on testosterone. It is a complicated chain-reaction, but to put it simply, food with a high glycemic index like the ones just mentioned are catastrophic for your insulin output. Mr. Pancreas won’t be happy about that! The human body is not equipped to handle these huge rushes of blood sugar, and aside from eventually getting type 2 diabetes, your woman will experience a majestic rise in cortisol. This hormonal cascade will lead to an epic drop in testosterone. Why? Because cortisol steals the building blocks used to manufacture testosterone. Frequent and significant insulin releases are linked to a high amount of cortisol, which destroys testosterone production.
4- She is chronically stressed: A lady who is experiencing chronic stress will have low T.
Stress can come in many forms. An excessive amount of cardiovascular exercise such as running, cycling, swimming, or even overtraining with weight-lifting, can lead to a monumental increase in cortisol. Other reasons can be that she cannot manage her stress properly, she works long hours, or takes too many stimulants, like coffee or energy drinks. It can be a combination of multiple factors, but in any case, her cortisol will go through the roof, and her testosterone will keep plummeting.
5- She takes birth control pills: This is a tricky one to explain, but the effects are well documented. Testosterone can be found in three different states of being. The only one that matters is called free testosterone. The other two are bound to proteins and are not active forms of testosterone. Some of the inactive testosterone can be converted back to free testosterone, but only a portion of it will be ‘‘freed’’. The birth control pill increases the amount of inactive testosterone while decreasing the amount of free testosterone. Let me be perfectly clear here; only free testosterone can be used by the body to increase libido, build muscle and bone density, increase your mood, and give you all the other added benefits. Other side effects of the pill are fat gain, loss of libido, damage to the intestinal microbiome, increased risk of osteoporosis, increased risk of type 2 diabetes, heart disease, etc. It literally destroys a woman in the long run.
(Link to the studies at the end of the chapter)
6- She has a roller-coaster life: Whopping emotional highs followed by life-crisis downs, drug abuse, binge drinking, smoking, chronic sleep deprivation, and high sugar consumption. This particular breed of woman may seem to have a super high libido at first. Indeed, they can be overly sexual, and sex with them will be incredibly hot. Those types of girls have a sexual persona that is entirely weaponized to hook men. Don’t be fooled by the intensity often experienced at the start of a relationship with this kind of woman, because you can bet that her desire will run dry as soon as you both settle comfortably into the relationship.
Since she needs constant novelty along with emotional highs to feed her sexual persona, this type of woman will have a hard time maintaining a normal sex drive in an ordinary relationship. Be warned; she will use her sexuality as a weapon to manipulate you. This is a clear sign that she possess little testosterone. Sexual intercourse doesn't matter for her, and she has absolutely no scruples with taking it away on a whim. The spark of lust that regularly occurs in a healthy woman with a good amount of testosterone won‘t happen for her, or if it does, it will be insignificant.
She will rely on her roller-coaster lifestyle and her many ups and downs to super-stimulate her low libido. Since she does not have sufficient natural lust to begin with, it is her only way to feed her sexual persona. I think that you can imagine it, that life with this type of woman is a living nightmare. The drug, alcohol, sleep deprivation, sugar consumption, and smoking part, all contribute to wave havoc on her hormonal system. Since all hormones are closely linked to each other, this is a testosterone killer.
7- She has a sedentary lifestyle: By this, I mean that she does not do any sport, doesn’t train or lift weights at the gym, nor does she participate in any outdoor activities. Intense bursts of energy in sports and weight training are essential keys to an optimal testosterone level. Any sport where you have to sprint will do the trick. Interval training that consists of both intense periods of exercise with short to medium recovery times are also great. Out of everything, weightlifting is the number one exercise for testosterone. This list does not include longs periods of low-intensity exercise such as marathon running. Frequent long-distance running drains the body of its resources and lowers testosterone. It also reduces muscle mass and bone density. Just look how thin and frail professional marathoners are, and you will understand.
Needless to say, you want to find a woman who is not vegan or vegetarian, who eats well, and who doesn’t avoid the good saturated fats. Ideally, she should dodge the sugar trap as much as possible, be in control of her life, and manage her stress well. She should avoid birth control pills, have a stable life, avoid frequent use of drugs and alcohol, have healthy sleeping habits, and train or do sports. All that, plus the other traits that I talked about in part one of this short series. It goes without saying that a combination of all these qualities is incredibly rare, but you should aim to check off as many of these traits as possible.
Before I close this chapter, I want to share two downsides of the ‘‘high-T’’ woman with all of you. The first one is that not any man can get his hands on this type of lady. They are healthier than the rest of the population; they are active, know what they want, and are more in control of their life than most women are.
If you are a low testosterone man with weak ambitions, I don’t think that you will have a chance with these women. Women tend to choose a partner based on his dominance, so if a particular woman possesses some dominant traits, she won’t commit to a man who is less dominant than herself.
This leads to my second point, which is that her hypergamy may be off the charts. Women with greater value know that they are in high demand and they know that many men would work themselves to death just for a chance to get into their panties. A woman who is in high demand will use the fact that many suitors are waiting in line against you. She may require that you prove yourself continually. She will test your dominance to see if you are worthy and hold the fact that many suitors are waiting in line for her like a fierce trump card always dangling in front of you.
And I have only one thing to say about that. Always place yours own needs above hers. Placing her needs below your will shatter this woman's attempts at manipulating you. Be ready to leave if she does not respect it, do not tolerate shit tests, and finally, you can always live without her.
Without male authority, being ready to leave is the only way to fend off the hypergamy of a woman. That is, she will either correct her behavior or leave. Her hypergamy will come back at a later time, and the choice will be the same again and again. She will either adapt her ways or leave. You have to be prepared for this at any time, even after multiple years together. Hopefully you will have a fulfilling relationship. At worst, you will be left alone, but your self-respect will remain intact.
Just remember that there is no magical unicorn out there. Women are all subject to the same instincts no matter what. It is part of their biological imperative to seek resources from men, and they can’t get it from a free and wild stallion dashing toward his dreams. A woman requires that you focus on her, not on yourself and your aspirations. She needs your ‘‘commitment’’, implying that you must re-orientate your priorities toward her. It is never about you and always about her. You give, and she takes. She has expectations, and you must fulfill them. If you refuse to do so, most women will accept it temporarily, only to ‘‘wait’’ until the bond between the two of you deepens. However, once she feels that you are ready to give in, she will try again to get more things out of you. The secure bond that develops over time between the two of you will become her primary weapon to accomplish her biological imperatives, and she will use it without a single shred of remorse.
If you desire a long-term relationship, it is entirely up to you to keep those hypergamous instincts in check. And this is precisely why I think that love between a man and a woman is a like dust in the wind. Such a continuous and laborious task just to preserve your self-determination, which should be a given in any situation, and to prevent manipulation, which shouldn’t even happen in the first place, is anything but love. In my opinion, romantic love is a terrible farce, and it is no less than servitude in a cheap disguise. However, I do believe in bonding, mutual benefits, connecting and creating intimacy with a woman. A partner with whom you can share intimate experiences is probably the best that human nature can offer, but don't be fooled by the false narrative of romantic love, as a woman will never reciprocate a man's sacrifice.
With all that said, high testosterone women still have a lot going for them; superior libido, better decision making and action taking, good health, stable lifestyle and less complaining. Overall, they make better partners than the average woman.
And that concludes this small series on the high testosterone woman. Please don’t hesitate to check the references I used in the description below. They are all scientifically peer-reviewed studies, most of which come from PubMed. As usual, the links to these studies are at the end of the chapter, and I encourage you to verify this information yourself.
Oral contraceptives lower androgen levels by inhibiting free testosterone:
Oral contraceptives, fractures, and osteoporosis in women:
Oral contraceptives and heart disease:
A diet with less saturated fat leads to a drop in testosterone levels:
Oral contraceptives associated with Crohn's disease and inflammatory bowel disease:
Decreased testosterone in vegetarian diets compared to omnivore diets:
Lower blood concentration of omega-3 fatty acids EPA and DHA in vegetarian:
Elevated cortisol lowers testosterone:
Sugary diet linked with elevated cortisol:
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