Chapter 19: Hypocrisy and Super Stimuli

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Chapter 19: Hypocrisy and Super Stimuli

‘‘All animals exhibit innate behaviors in response to specific sensory stimuli that are likely to result from the activation of developmentally programmed circuits.’’

- Richard Axel –

“Some of us look for the Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.”

- W. Somerset Maugham –

Supernormal stimulus: this is a term often used to describe chemicals that reproduce the effect of a natural reward exponentially. For example, when a person eats healthy food, his body will produce dopamine, which is the ‘‘feel-good/reward’’ hormone. Eating is essential for survival, and the brain developed a way to reward us for this important behavior, which is a surge of dopamine.

When the same person eats junk food, he will experience a superstimulus. The fats and sugar in the unhealthy snack will trigger a massive amount of dopamine to be released into his bloodstream, and that will create an intensely pleasurable experience that will get the person hooked. This is why you see so many individuals who can’t stop eating junk food even if their health is compromised. Countless people even eat themselves to an early grave. Extreme versions of natural rewards are tough to resist and can get the better of any of us. Sometimes, the threat of death itself is not enough to deter our cravings for a particular superstimulus.

The hormonal cascade that results after a super a stimulus is more complicated than this, but we don’t need to go into every detail in order to understand the basics of this phenomenon.

With that said, food is not the only thing that has a superstimulus counterpart. As men, we are often tricked by three different versions of exaggerated natural rewards, and women routinely use those methods to manipulate us.

Number 1: Hyper Sexuality

Tight clothes, carefully applied makeup, sensual lipstick, high heels that make the ass pop and the breasts stand out, sensual hips movements, plastic surgery, you get the picture. Appearance is one of the biggest expenses in women’s lives, and for what purpose? Because it is a powerful weapon used to control men. Nowadays, it’s typical for teenage girls to save up money for a breast augmentation, which can cost thousands of dollars.

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Young sexy woman in jeans shorts with white sport car

It may be a regular thing, but it is far from natural. There was a time when women could not shave, did not possess makeup, had rudimentary clothes, and had hands as rough as any man, since they did a lot of physical labor.

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Cavemen cooking

In the previous picture, two cavewomen are preparing food and maintaining a fire. Their depiction is realistic, but since there was no way to shave in this era, the two women should have hairy legs and hairy armpits. In fact, all cavewomen had hairy legs and hairy armpits. There was no shampoo, their hair was constantly disheveled, and they had poor hygiene.

Men that lived in tribes could easily get excited by this type of woman. At our core, we are wired to be turned on by poor looking tribal women. But now that ladies are as artificial as plastic dolls, we literally go crazy over them. It is a superstimulus that should not exist in our natural world, and it gives rise to an overload of sexual attraction. It is an almost perfect tool to manipulate men.

Number 2: Artificial Neoteny

Neoteny is defined by the retention by adults of traits previously seen only in the young. In other words, looking and behaving like a kid when you’re an adult.

Almost all creatures possess a parental brain and have an automatic response to protect their offspring. For some birds, the smell of their offspring will trigger their protective instincts. That is why you should never take a baby bird that fell out of its nest bare-handed. The weird human smell that you may leave on the little fellow will be picked-up by the mother, and she will reject him. That is to say, you just sentenced that baby to a death penalty.

Other birds can be tricked to choose bigger and more vibrant ‘‘fake’’ eggs over their own eggs. The superstimuli are the big and bright ‘‘fake’’ eggs which are put in the nest, and the birds show a ‘‘super response’’; the mother bird will discard her own eggs and let them die off.

One of the most revealing examples is of the cuckoo. Female cuckoos will usually lay their eggs in nests of other species and they will let their offspring grow and be taken care of by their foster parent. As such, they could be seen as parasites that feed on the parental investment of other species. The baby cuckoo will usually grow and become larger than their foster parent, sometimes grotesquely larger. Then, one could ask how the foster parent could be fooled by such an obvious trick, especially when a ‘‘parent’’ can be seen perching on the back of his monstrously big foster child to feed him.

Rather than fooling their foster parent, some scientists think that infant cuckoos act on the nervous system of their caretaker in the same way that an addictive drug does. The enticement for nurturing Cuckoo nesting is so irresistible that it is not uncommon to observe a bird dropping food into the mouth of a baby cuckoo sitting in some other bird’s nest. Birds can spot an unknown nest with cuckoos in it and change direction to feed them, even when that food was destined for their own offspring. In more than one way, these winged parents are acting as addicts and their drug is the caring of the young cuckoos.

Parental instincts exist in most species and can be manipulated. Just like birds, humans can also be fooled. In our case, there are particular neural areas and hormones linked with the nurturing of the young. For example, fathers who are raising a young child have less testosterone, more estrogen, and more prolactin than single men (prolactin is a hormone that is more prevalent in women and it is linked with milk production for breastfeeding). It is believed that this mechanism lowers aggression and increases sensitivity, which is important for childcare. The important thing to remember here is that the ‘‘parental instinct’’ creates a physical response that can be measured either with brain scans or by looking at a person’s hormone levels.

The parental brain appears to be triggered by ‘‘cuteness’’, or child-like features, such as big eyes, a large head, short legs, and childish behavior. It makes sense since all our young are this way, but in our case, our protective instincts can be tricked with artificial neoteny.

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Before after. Nerd girl turns into a beauty queen. Ugly duck. Beauty and success. Transfiguration of the ordinary in a stylish beauty model

While women can’t perfectly emulate a child, they can do it to some extent. Finely applied makeup helps them look younger. Look at the woman’s eyes in the picture above. The differences between the before (on the left) and after (on the right) pictures are massive. On the after picture, do you see how the woman purposely stretched her eyes open and how her makeup also makes them look bigger? That’s artificial neoteny right there; a young looking woman with eyes as big as a child.

As a side note, if a man stretches his eyes open in this fashion (without frowning), he will look like a total weirdo. Yet most girls practice this behavior in the mirror and take multiple pictures of themselves until they perfect the art of opening up their eyes without looking creepy. It is obviously a child that the woman imitates.

The Japanese Manga and Anime industry is a perfect example of how hypersexuality can be mixed with childish features.

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Sexy blonde girl in bikini

Do you know why so many men like the two-dimensional (2D) girls from manga? Well, look at this: a developed body with bountiful breasts, sexy clothes, a head as huge as a child’s, eyes too big to be real, and a young face. The female manga character generally possesses a perfect mix of hypersexuality and neoteny. Women characters in manga are entirely weaponized to appeal to the masculine instincts, and it works so well that it is almost scary. You don’t have to be a genius to understand why the anime and manga industry has such a gigantic audience.

The last part about neoteny is related to women’s behaviors, and how it is used to create guilt in men.

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Women often behave with ‘‘cuteness’’. They may act more fragile or appear weaker than they actually are. They will snooze in a ‘‘cute’’ way or react emotionally for no good reason. They do all sorts of stuff to appear younger and appeal to our parental brain.

This is a type of manipulation used to create guilt in men. How could a powerful and dominant man hurt such a ‘‘small’’ and ‘‘weak’’ woman? He must protect her. She is weaker than him. She needs his help. This act stirs his compassion and empathy. He would have to have a heart of stone if he did not comply and lend a hand to this poor lady.

It goes against logic to think that a being with such soft and delicate skin, with a pair of angelic and captivating eyes and pure and tender hair, could hide a selfish and abusive agenda. It is practically unfathomable to think that a seemingly wonderful and pure creature would use a man that loves and cares for her for her own benefit. Even if we see it or experience it ourselves, we just ignore that facts and turn a blind eye.

Most of the time, a man who refuses to play the role of the selfless protector will be blamed and shamed as if he did something wrong. But did he really do something wrong? He most certainly did not. This is merely a deception that makes use of guilt and shame to coerce men into becoming women’s proxy power.

Thus, the man becomes servile and assumes a protective role, even when his partner is a fully grown adult who can take care of herself.

Men in long-term relationships (even those who don’t have children) have an average of 20% less testosterone when compared to their single-men counterparts while divorced men quickly get back to a high testosterone level after breaking up. Results of a study done by a team of Harvard University anthropologists, September 2002, published in Harvard Gazette, speak to the validity of this argument. Why is this so? Perhaps it is because women appeal to our parental brain in the same way that children do, and we have an innate biological response that affects our hormonal system. So let me ask, why is it that living with a woman triggers the same hormonal response as taking care of a young child?

Number 3: Controlling the pair-bonding instinct

First, let me introduce you to some books! You will certainly have a good laugh, or perhaps you will be fiercely angered. Maybe both.

There is a vast collection of books on ‘‘self-improvement’’ targeted at women. One of them is called ‘‘Bring Your Husband to Heel,’’ which features a dog trainer sharing her tricks with wives facing ‘‘laziness and other unwanted behaviors’’ from their spouses.

The author’s advice goes like this:

Once a dog has had his fill, he becomes lazy and it is harder to make him learn new tricks. Always keep him fed mid-way between being hungry and satisfied. That way, he will keep coming for more, and will stay on his ‘‘nicest behavior’’.

That is a typical line found in these ‘‘self-improvement’’ books. They teach women what a dog training regiment looks like, and they explain how it can be applied to a man.

Another such example is the book ‘‘How To Date Like a Courtesan: Attract, Seduce, and Manipulate Men for Love, Money, and Marriage.’’ Here is a short description of the book by the author:

[‘‘You might be intrigued by the sugardaddy / sugarbaby phenomenon that you've heard about in the media. You might have heard about courtesans, high-end escorts, and mistresses, and wonder how these women manage to find generous men who are willing to spend vast sums of money on them. Perhaps you are focused on a long-term relationship or marriage, and you dream about what life could be like with a loving, generous rich man. At the same time, you have hesitated because you are worried about the social stigma associated with being labeled as a ‘‘gold digger’’.

Don't worry, you are normal. It is natural and healthy to be attracted to abundance.

Lots of women are in the same situation, but most women allow their ignorance, fear, or guilt around money to prevent them from getting what they deserve in relationships. But this doesn't have to happen to you. Once you have the knowledge and tools that I provide in this book, you will never be limited by a fear of the unknown or by negative unconscious beliefs about money.’’]

There is a litany of these books; here are a few other examples:

- ‘‘How to Make Your Man Behave in 21 Days or Less Using the Secrets of Successful Dog Trainers’’

- ‘‘Alpha Male: Who They Are, How They Think, What They Want; How to Attract, Meet, Marry & Train One’’

- ‘‘Why Men are Like Dogs and How We Can Love Them’’

- ‘‘The Power of the Pussy: Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!’’

In other words, these ‘‘self-improvements’’ books teach women to manipulate the pair-bonding instinct of their partner in order to train them like a dog. They are told to never fully satisfy his desire for acceptance, love, kinship, sex, and affection. Make him come to you, and he will beg for more, just like a dog on a half-empty stomach.

In essence, it is the act of weaponizing a secure bond to coerce a man. Men’s basic need for love and acceptance are being toyed with and many men fall into a constant state of manipulation and deprivation. The withdrawal of sex, affection, approval, and love is a superstimulus used by women to exhibit better control over their partner. Nowadays, many men have become love junkies; they lose all self-respect and are going to any length to pursue these women.

Women are socialized to tantalize men with the fruit of love. They keep it near, yet forever out of reach.

- Never message him first.

- Make him wait; you are a busy woman.

- Even if you are not busy, act like you are.

- Only agree to a date if you have a few day notice. If not, refuse.

- Only put in 30% effort.

- Never call him unless you are returning a call, and don’t call him immediately.

- You are the prize. Make him work for it.

More than books, teachings, socialization, or the influence of feminism and social Marxism, it is the very nature of the female that is revealed throughout the use of the three superstimuli. Subtle sexual display to entice a man’s lust, appearing weaker and more vulnerable than she actually is, seeking sympathy and protection, nagging, shaming, exclusion, and ostracisms; many form of deception comes naturally to a woman.

Women do not even need to think about it, nor do they have to make a conscious effort to exploit others, since it all comes naturally to them. Men can become adept at spotting manipulation, but even for the best of us, we still need some conscious reflection to understand a woman’s trickery. Men need at least a moment of thinking before understanding manipulation. Even if it can be very short, the information needs to be computed and there is a delay. Women do not have to ponder or hesitate when they manipulate; their emotions have evolved through a process of elimination for thousands of millennia, and the result of this natural selection is that women will use the most efficient manipulation methods they have by blindly following their feelings. Like a creature impulsively following its instincts, women aren’t even aware of why and how they are capable of such feats. They just act on their feelings, and there isn’t much to think about. The overuse of the three super stimuli is the apparent result of women’s emancipation. This facet of female nature used to be under control, strictly managed by male authority, but it is now free to wreak havoc on our societies. In other words, this is what unconstrained hypergamy looks like.

This farce is now mainstream, and it goes by the name of ‘‘romantic love’’. It may be called romantic love, but it is the cold and unfeeling exploitation of male biology, and it has dirtied our civilization for a long time.

The three previous superstimuli (which are hypersexuality, artificial neoteny, and the manipulation of the pare-bonding instinct), are a deadly combination that keeps men locked in a state of despair. Like any superstimulus, this gives rise to a ‘‘super response’’.

Do you know what an addict does when he is faced with his addiction? He either relapses into an endless series of binges, or he completely quit whatever he was consuming. One choice leaves him broken and miserable, while the other empowers him to lead a better life.

The same goes for the modern woman and her attempts at tantalizing her partner. A man who stays in the hellish pit of romantic love is bound to become a shadow of himself, a broken man. Unless he quits, he will never find fulfillment and happiness.

Did you know that the Millennials have less sex and less sexual partners overall than the Baby Boomers and Generation X? It is surprising since we are in an era where online dating makes it so easy to meet people, where pick up artists are supposed to be prevalent, and where sexuality is omnipresent in the mainstream media. The Millennials are also the generation with the lowest marriage rate, with the most singles mothers, and where you can find the highest rate of single men and single women.

Why? There are multiple reasons for this, but the super response I explained earlier is certainly a part of it.

Like addicts who are tired of repeatedly being abused, men are quitting relationships and the deadly trap of romantic love by the thousands. Just look at the ‘‘herbivore men’’ phenomenon taking place in Japan or the Sexodus that is happening all over the world. The Sexodus is the rapidly declining birth rate that is going on worldwide. For those who do not know, every single Western country has a birth rate below replacement levels. This means that people aren’t making enough babies, and the population is decreasing.

In regard to the ‘‘herbivores men’’ of Japan, this is a phenomenon very similar to the Sexodus. Many Japanese men left the marriage and relationship market and decided to work just enough to sustain their own hobbies and lifestyle. This has economists fervently panicking. Japan’s population is declining rapidly, and it will keep falling at an even faster rate as time passes. At the same time, many men decided not to provide for a family and are working less than their father did, which in turn keeps the economy going down. The most surprising fact about the herbivore man is that a litany of young men aren’t interested in sex and don’t even bother to date women. Since so many men are out of the market, there are a lot of lonely women out there, otherwise known as the ‘‘dry fish ladies’’.

Finally, we must not forget the thousands upon thousands of MGTOW (which stands for “Men Going Their Own Way, in case you forgot”) who took the Red Pill and willingly decided to leave the game. By going their own way, they too refused to play by the rules of a rigged game.

In the same manner that junk food leads to an early grave, women who torment men with the three super stimuli are contributing to the breakdown of functional relationships. It is happening whether you believe it or not.

It may not have been too noticeable in previous generations, but it certainly is with the youngest of us.

When all is said and done, I believe that every man should be aware of our shared weakness, and we should learn how to avoid being exploited. It is a sad truth, but it is necessary to acknowledge.

I have a final thought on this subject. Dads routinely warn their daughters about the danger of teenage boys, right? They warn them about pretty boys with muscular abs that only want to get into their panties, or about pickup artists that sleep around and are only interested in their looks. They post memes on Facebook to scare away the playboys and the losers. Fathers teach these things to their daughters and they actively protect them from those type of people.

But what about mothers and their sons? Do they teach their boys about hypergamy and the danger of women? Have you ever heard of the word hypergamy before taking the Red Pill? It is such a decisive force of human biology that shaped and drove civilization since the beginning of our evolution, and yet practically no one knows what it is. As a teenager, did your mother warn you about teenage girls who wanted to use you for your money? Did you learn about the traps that women routinely use to ensnare men, like the superstimuli that we just saw?

Chances are good that you didn’t. As a young man, did you ever imagine that it was possible for women to fall pregnant on purpose to get child support money? Did you learn that more than 70% of divorces are initiated by women, partly because they can get alimony payments? Are there any mothers out there who warm their boys about the danger of the family court system? Are men even told that they can end up ‘‘divorce raped’’ by a predatory woman?

Being separated from your children and being financially ruined by a woman in family court are not uncommon occurrences today.

Don’t boys learn to distinguish the good from the bad, or the predatory women from the virtuous? No, in most cases mothers do not teach these things to their sons. Do you know why? Because a lot of these moms are predatory women themselves, and revealing these things, would also reveal their flaws. They do not want to expose their own hypergamous nature and will go to any length to hide the truth. They will never acknowledge their actions or their deceptions. Thus, predatory mothers do not teach these crucial things that can be life-saving to their sons.

If male aggression is the negative side of masculinity, then female vanity is the unseen side of femininity. In today’s modern society, female vanity is so prevalent, yet so excessively hidden that only a handful of people know about it.

This chapter was inspired by Paul Elam video titled ‘‘Chasing the Dragon’’. I highly suggest that you check out his work on his YouTube channel: ‘‘An Ear for Men.’’

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